What could be more fun and rewarding for a couple than to spice up their sex life by playing together with other couples or singles? Getting to watch your partner from a vantage point other than "right on top of them" during sex is something that few people in our country actually get to experience. And being able to talk about the shared experiences you both had at the same time can fuel conversations for weeks and months to come.
That is how we started out, and it made sense. We had the reassurance and security of having each other in the same room, watching out for each other, and finding other couples to play with was relatively easy. Bur now that we are approaching 9 years involved in swinging, we have learned a LOT more about what we are each looking for in our play partners, and finding a guy that SHE likes and a girl that I like that are actually together started becoming increasingly difficult over the years. So even though in the beginning we never thought it would happen, as our experience and comfort levels grew along with our "pickiness" for our play partners, we started finding ourselves saying "Hey, go play with so-and-so ... I'm gonna chill out here while you play." In other words, we started "playing separately".
